It’s so important, even crucial, to have a good support system. Not just people who will support you when you are struggling but also people who will be there to challenge you and help you grow when you need it the most. This can be so hard and not many relationships can survive it and yet successfully balance between supporting and challenging each other.
As a therapist I’ve noticed that way too often people (including myself) come to vent. Nothing wrong with that but just like with many things, too much of a good thing may not be so good after all.
Don’t get me wrong, we all need to vent. This helps us to get that steam off, feel connected with someone, get support and reassurance that we are doing the right thing, and feel better about ourselves at the end. But I also noticed that often too much venting prevents us from growing..
Challenging someone’s point of view is hard. Not every person can challenge us. Not every person will be able to do that successfully. We need to be open to accept that challenge, which can also be very hard as it requires lots of emotional courage, trust and readiness to grow and change on both ends. Just because someone is challenging us it doesn’t mean that they got it all figured out. Whoever is challenging us also needs to be open to recognize their own blindspots and be ready to grow. No one got it all figured out (Not even a therapist 😉 But at least, hopefully, we can be on the same page about that and grow and support each other together.